FLAT IS BEAUTIFUL
You are defining yourself.
Do not let others define you.
In The Holiday, (one of my favorite movies) Kate Winslet has one of those life-changing "aha" moments. Kate makes friends with an Oscar-winning film director from the golden age of Hollywood. Her new (very old) friend says to her what no therapist could convey after many years.
At dinner one night, (after she shares her hopeless unrequited love story)…He says to her ... “You’re a leading lady I can tell, but you’re acting like the best friend”
She instantly realizes he is absolutely right!
Check it out.
(The Holiday is available on Netflicks right now...You gotta watch it)
When you stop letting others define you…you are free.
A friend of mine shared her story with me. She was, (shall we say) a very late bloomer.
Puberty did not happen until she was 17.
In ninth grade, she defined herself.
It was 1978 and she was 15 years old.
She used to cry to her Mom about having a "little girl body"
No boys asked her on dates.
She was picked on by other girls for being "flat"
She didn't understand why boobs were such a big deal, because truthfully...she liked her body just fine. As a matter of fact, the more she thought about it, the more she realized something.
FLAT IS BEAUTIFUL.
She wrote it on a shirt and wore it. (she came up with the idea and her sweet mamma was so supportive that they went to the Bon Marche and walked out with that custom t-shirt) proudly designed by a certain 15-year-old girl who loved herself...despite the haters...
This girl, at 15 years old defied the beauty ideals of her time. She didn't fit in...because she was a late bloomer. She had no breast development. She was skinny and a tom-boy.
and she was...
The courage and the confidence to declare it to the world is totally inspirational to most of her friends and family. Simultaneously, it is completely offensive to prude English teachers who promptly kicked her out of class!
I LOVE THIS GIRL.
FLAT IS BEAUTIFUL.
GRAY IS GORGEOUS.
FORTY IS FABULOUS.
and so on...
Find your fierce.
Take the journey.